Don’t get me wrong, I have a satisfying interesting life and am making the most of it, just like my husband would have wanted.
But some days I really feel his absence. It is all the little things he did for me that seem so difficult to do without:
I miss that special look in his eyes meant only for me.
I miss lying in bed next to him bumper to bumper.
I miss his dimpled smile that always adorned his face.
I miss his positive attitude constantly assuring me that everything would turn out okay no matter what.
I miss his physical presence.
I miss his shoulder to cry on when something didn’t go right.
I miss having him to go out to eat with and to hang around Barnes and Noble with on Friday nights.
I miss the red roses he bought me on all occasions.
I miss his willingness to run down to the store in the evening to pick up a prescription that I was too busy to get during the day and was too tired at night.
I miss the beautiful cards he always bought me that took him forever to pick out until he found just the right one.
I miss his encouragement in all of my endeavors especially my books. I don’t think I ever would have published even one without his reassurance.
I miss the way he kept several of my books in his car and talked everyone he met into buying one or sometimes more.
I miss his calls at supper time telling me he was on the way home.
I miss his pushing me to do things out of my comfort zone that turned out to be some of best funnest things I’ve done.
I miss going on rides in the country and just taking off for the afternoon with him.
When some had been your life for 50 years, the feeling that a part of you is missing just never seems to go away completely. Even after almost 4 years, I still miss him a lot.
Yesterday was my birthday. It turned out to be one of the best birthdays I’ve had.
When I woke up and came down for breakfast this is what I found at my place:
My son and his GF who now live with me bought me the roses and a beautiful card. It put a smile on my face all morning long!
The night before my daughter had dinner for the family, She made Chicken Riggies. Yumm!
My DIL has the same birthday as mine so she was celebrated too! It looks like the whole cake was on fire but it wasn’t.
So yesterday I had a free entry coupon from Applebees and I asked my son and DGF to go with me there. I had one of the 550 calorie dinners and it was great!
And then they gave me a free dessert, too! I didn’t know that came with it. It was a small cup of strawberry cheesecake. And it tasted like real cheesecake! Yummy too! Then the server asked me if I wanted them to sing for me. I said, “Sure, bring it on. That’s why I came here.” Then they gave me the dessert with a lit candle in it.
I was so happy! What a wonderful day!
When I got home, my SON had baked me a cake with red raspberry swirled throughout it. That too was delicious.
And best of all, when I got on the scale this morning, I found out that my weight was down from the day before.
- Free Entrée At Applebee’s On Your Birthday (papascents.com)
The most wonderful thing happened last night in a dream…my husband came to visit me.
He was there right next to me and I could see his smiling face, dimples showing. It was so vivid, so real! It felt so good to see him again. And we talked and chatted for a time. I could see right into his blue eyes and every feature of that familiar face so close to mine and then he kissed me. It was just like old times. He was so happy to see me; I could see it in his face. I smiled too and felt magnificent.
And as we talked he put his arms around me and hugged me tight. I could actually feel the hug. I didn’t want to open my eyes because I knew when I did, he’d be gone. Gone back to his heavenly home where he’s been for three years now.
This is the first time I dreamt of him so vividly; one other time in another dream I saw only his figure.
I had been praying for a sign from him that I desperately needed at this time and that surely was one.
What a wonderful dream to have!
Today I am very excited to report that my blog was presented with, The Very Inspiring Blogger Award, by http://beatredundancyblues.wordpress.com/
My mission has been just that. To inspire others through this blog. I sincerely hope I have lived up to that. Thanks very much Sandra Bellamy (quirkybooks) for this nomination. I appreciate it very much.
For the ‘Very Inspiring Blogger Award’ The rules are:
1. I should display the award logo somewhere on my blog. Done.
2. Link back to the blog of the person who nominated me. Done.
3. State 7 things about myself. Done.
4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for the award and provide links to their blogs. (Done)
5. Notify those bloggers that they have been nominated and of the award’s requirements. (Will do)
Here are 7 things I would like to share about myself:
1. I am an Author of Children’s Historical Fiction.
2. I love to read.
3. I was a teacher before I retired.
4. I walk about 2 miles everyday.
5. I love to give presents.
6. I consider myself very spiritual.
7. I have 8 grown-up children.
Now I need to nominate other blogs for the award. I nominate the following:
Last week I was looking in my cupboard at all of my beautiful dishes and it hit me. ..In all the years I’ve had those dishes, I bet I’ve only used them 3 or 4 times. How sad. My husband who urged me to buy them has passed away, and all of my children no longer live at home. And the dishes still sit there waiting to be used.
Why do we do this? Save things for some unknown special day.
I say , “Use the good dishes.” Enjoy them. Don’t wait to pass them on to someone after you are gone. Use them until they are all used up. And if you are not going to use them, give them to someone who will.
And so it is with other things in our lives that we are waiting to do when the time is right.
“Oh we’ll get married when we save enough money.”
“We’ll have kids when we are ready for them…not now.”
“We’ll buy that new house when things are perfect.”
You will never have enough money. You will never be ready. And things will never be perfect.
Just do it! Use the good dishes!
Tuesday, November 13, 2012
Interview – Dorothy Stacy
In the past, I’ve hosted young adult, fantasy, and mystery authors. So, I thought I would go in another direction: Middle Grade. Add to that the stunning factor that this author is local, and I vote we have a winning mix. I am pleased to introduce Dorothy Stacy! She is the author of the Erie CanalCousins.
Thank you, Jori, for the opportunity to be interviewed on your blog.
E—–Easy going—-Erie Canal Gal
Dorothy Stacy H—–Happy—-History lover—Helper
L—–Loyal—-Loving—-Living my Dream
O—–Original—– Ocean lover
While eating lunch today, I turned the TV to EWTN and viewed a very interesting program. It was a discussion panel on the HHS Mandate and what its impact would be on us. I never realized the enormity of the consequences for so many people.
This mandate “requires almost all private health plans to cover contraception, sterilization and abortion-inducing drugs. The federal government will force religious institutions to fund and facilitate coverage of a drug or procedure contrary to their moral teaching, and try to define which religious institutions are “religious enough” to merit an exemption. This is a matter of whether religious people and institutions can be forced by the government to provide such coverage even when it violates our consciences.” (From: Intersection, the Church, the state, and me)
Many religious charities will have to cease to exist under the new government mandates in health care. They will be fined if they do not comply…$100. a day for each employee for not complying. If there were 100 employees, that would cost the organization $1,000. a day. Many of these charities that do such good work and help so many people would have to close; they could not afford these fees or TAXES as they are called. This also threatens nurses and doctors jobs, too. If they have to be forced to commit what they feel is a crime, many would chose to leave their jobs instead or be fired. Churches, religious schools, some hospitals would also be affected by this.
A book, Catholics in the Public Square, by Rev. Thomas Olmstead would be good to look into on this matter.
The separation of Church and State was intended to keep government from interfering in faith…not the other way around.
A crisis in faith affects our government today. God was even omitted from the Democratic Platform, but immediately reinserted when it looked like that would be a problem for them.
This is a crisis folks! People stand up for your Religious Rights! And be informed before you vote in November.
Ah the sea!
This week we are spending time at Hampton Beach in New Hampshire. The ocean is my favorite part of the trip. I just love to walk along the beach, feel the cold water swish over my feet as I get my morning walk in, and collect the rocks along the way that entice me to pick them up. As I drop them into my pocket, the load gets heavier and heavier and I intend to pass them by but cannot resist adding just one more heart shaped one, one more silver flecked one, and one more black one with a white cross in it. Soon my load becomes too heavy and I must return to my room to sort out my treasures. I wash the rocks and place them on a paper plate to dry. The next day I intend to ignore the stones, but end up doing it all over again.
I also love every kind of seafood there is…lobster being my favorite, scallops next, full belly clams, etc. I also love clam chowder. All so yummy!
And then there is the shopping…outlets in Maine, tax free bargains in NH, the book store…plenty to keep one occupied.
Best of all, a whole lot of my children and grandchildren are here. We each have a condo in the same place, so we can visit each other, have some of our meals together, and gather on the beach together to talk, laugh, relax and have the best time ever.
And we do this every summer.
Another re-posting from Carol Kinney’s Blog:
Monday, July 23, 2012
Yesterday, I finally had a chance to sit and relax a bit. Snuggled up in my recliner chair with the Sunday OD on my lap, I flipped to the section that has all of the human interest stories and on the front page was an article about the Erie Canal (http://www.uticaod.com/living/x42014651/10-things-to-know-about-the-Erie-Canal) and as I read the article, I was reminded how blessed we are in our area to have people who appreciate the beauty that our region offers, as part of God’s creation and man-made creation, and who want to share all that they know about our valley with those of us who take the time to listen and read. Dorothy Stacy is one of those people from whom we can learn from about history in our area-and the Erie Canal is her expertise, since she has written five books about life on the Erie Canal!
Mrs. Stacy has led a full and interesting life and her passion for history plays a HUGE part of it. Aside from being the author of the Erie Canal Cousins book series for middle readers, she is a member of the Oneida County Historical Society, Vice President of the Town of Paris Historical Society, and author of the Town of Paris Historical Society’s newsletter. I cannot do justice to Mrs. Stacy’s long list of accomplishments and interests, so here are links to her website and blog:
http://dorothystacy.com/ (Check out her “about me” page-you’ll be amazed. A word of caution: after reading all about her, you might feel like you are a slacker-ha, ha!)
http://dorothystacy.wordpress.com/ (a quick check of the blog reveals Mrs. Stacy’s new book series!)
Next time . . . Stories about cousins.